Look at yourself right now and evaluate SIX people that you hang out with. For me personally, I have met a lot of people from all walks of life, from drug addicts to successful millionaires, there is a no brainer who you would want to hang out with here. Anyway look at the SIX people that you chill with on regular basis and talk to. Are they successful, do they nag and complain about money, do they party all the time and get nothing done, do they say negative things to you or about you, do they doubt your progress and ability, do they drag you down if you bring good ideas to the table, and the list goes on. If so, then you need to change that, unless you wanna change into one of those people or poses those negative qualities. If you’re not an idiot I would image that you’d want to change that aspect of your circle of friends. Now I am not saying cut off all means of communication and end the friendship with your friends, NO NO, well unless they are that bad. But allow yourself less time with those people, and get some positive individuals and friends into your life… trust me they are everywhere.
For myself, I am too busy to deal with bullshit; I have bigger and better things on my mind that need attention. I am not judgmental, but through many life’s experiences I’ve learned to evaluate people and see if they fit into the criteria of people that I wish to stay in contact with. I have even had negative family members that would always tell me that my ideas are out of reach, or they would never work. Maybe they are right… maybe they are not, however I would have never known till I tried. Remember, don’t predict, but prepare. As far as those negative family members and friends, I do get to see them and we talk just like the old times. However, I don’t let them into my circle of that “positive aura” if you may.
I follow this simple model, which I got from the book called “Shut Up, Stop Whining, and Get a Life” by Larry Winget.
- do not listen to someone who is broke tell you how to be rich
- do not listen to a fat doctor who smokes tell you what it takes to be healthy
- do not listen to someone tell you how to be successful when they are not
- do not listen to a preacher tell you that you are worthless sinner
- do not listen to people who talk bad about other people
- do not listen to office gossip
- do not listen to anyone put you down for any reason at any time
- do not listen to yourself when you are talking bad about yourself
So, who are your SIX people that you surround yourself with?